Love, Marriage and Sex
The most important thing anyone needs to know about love, marriage and sex is that God made them, they are very good and He told us what is best for us.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed (Genesis 2:24-25).
God clearly commands young people to leave their parents, to be joined together (married) as couples and to be one flesh (full sexual intercourse). He encourages them to be naked in one another's presence and enjoy it. This and many other Bible verses hold up marriage as the best way to provide sexual satisfaction, love, security, economic efficiency and the best environment to raise children. Most people would probably agree that a great marriage is ideal, but they would have all different views as to how possible it is to achieve, and the best road to take to get there.
Did you know that the second dispute in the Bible is about sexuality—this very subject? Read on!
The first dispute is closely related. It is about whether or not Adam and Eve should eat from the "tree of the knowledge of good and evil"—whether they should decide for themselves what is good and what is evil (Genesis 3:1-9). Their decision was to go their own way, and to this day we have a great variety of ideas about what is good and what is evil. Most religions and philosphies incorporate the Golder Rule:
Treat others as you want to be treated.
This basic principle, when fairly carried out, has resulted in many good laws and practices compatible with the Scripture. For example, "I do not want anyone to injure or kill me, so I will not injure or kill others, and I will support laws punishing those who do." Most people would accept a similar approach to stealing. But then, there are philosophical communists who would say everything should belong to everybody, so there is no stealing. What is the truth? The Bible teaches property is private and theieves should be punished, but it also protects us from generational poverty by forgiving all debts every seven years (Deuteronomy 15) and redistributing land every 49 years (Leviticus 25).
The second dispute in the Bible was about sexuality—when it is or is not all right to be naked. Somehow, Adam and Eve decided it was wrong for a married couple, with the world as their bedroom, to be naked together:
So he [Adam] said, "I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself." And He [God] said, "Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?" (Genesis 3:10-11).
And from that time on, a great many cultures have decided that sex is sinful, and should always be covered up and not mentioned. Other cultures have take the opposite extreme, accepting nakedness and sexual activity between almost any people at any time. The Bible clearly teaches the middle ground that sex and nudity is acceptable, good and beautiful among a married man and woman, but nowhere else. Biblical marriages are public events to be witnessed by the community—thus protecting vulnerable individuals from sex being forced upon them from secret or sham marraiges.
In our modern western societies, the laws regarding nakedness and sexual practices are complex and confusing beyond belief. Most of our entertainment is full of explicit references to sex among unmarried individuals—many portrayed as teens, even though the actors might be older. Children are taught "safe sex" practices in school beginning in junior high—sometimes provided with free condoms. The clear implication is that nearly eveyone is going to do this—even though sexual acts are technically illegal below the age of consent, which varies from 16 to 18 among states in the USA.
Further adding to the confusion, sex acts among teens below the age of consent are rarely prosecuted. Most teens do not even know it is technically illegal—the movies they watch and the schools they attend do not teach them this. Yet there are now tens of thousands of people with criminal records and who must register as sex offenders for decades because they did things such as:
Yes, our western societies are a combination of anything-goes "free sex" and stiff, life-crippling punishments with ill-conceived dividing lines between the two. An angry man can spend all day playing graphic video games where he sexually brutalizes and kills helpless adults and children. The law will not track or punish him until he carries out this action on a real person. But if parents are caught with a picture given to them by their minor child of his/her friends fully sunbathing, they could spend years in prison and be required to publicly register as a sex offender for life.
The solution to this big mess is three-fold and fairly simple:
For you own happiness, and the good of others around you, we encourage you to adopt a biblical view of Love, Marriage and Sex. The buttons at the upper right link to articles that will explain the scriptures in detail.
— Norman Edwards
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